Advice for Children
Supporting Children Through Grief
Talking to children about death is a sensitive and challenging task, but it's crucial to address their questions and feelings in a supportive and age-appropriate manner. Here are some guidelines and resources to help navigate this difficult conversation:
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Honesty and Age-Appropriate Communication:
When discussing death with children, it's essential to be honest and use language that matches their age and level of understanding. Avoid euphemisms and provide clear, simple explanations that they can grasp. Encourage them to express their emotions through drawing or writing in a private diary where they can freely explore their feelings.
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Creating a Safe Space for Expression:
It's important to create a safe environment where children feel comfortable expressing their emotions about death. Encourage them to ask questions and share their thoughts openly. Let them know that all emotions, whether sadness, anger, or confusion, are normal and valid.
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Listening and Validating Feelings:
Listen attentively to what children have to say about death and validate their feelings. Reassure them that it's okay to feel sad or upset, and avoid dismissing their emotions. Let them know that you are there to support them through this challenging time.
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Providing Reassurance and Support:
Reassure children that they are loved and cared for, and that they are not alone in their grief. Offer comfort and support, and encourage them to seek help from trusted adults if they need it. Assure them that their feelings will change over time and that it's okay to take as much time as they need to process their emotions.
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Using Books and Resources:
There are numerous books and resources available to help children understand and cope with death. Reading books together or watching age-appropriate videos can initiate discussions and provide comfort during this difficult period. Explore these resources together to facilitate understanding and emotional expression.
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Seeking Professional Support:
If children are finding it difficult to cope with the death of a loved one, or if you feel overwhelmed discussing death with them, consider seeking support from a professional counselor or therapist. Many organizations in the UK specialist in supporting families and children dealing with grief, providing counseling services and tailored support groups.
Useful Bereavement Groups
At Mitchell's Funeral Services, we understand the importance of supporting families through the complexities of grief. Here are some valuable organisations that offer support and resources
Cruse Bereavement Care
Provides counselling services, support groups, and information for anyone who has lost a loved one. Services are free and confidential.
Child Bereavement UK
Offers tailored support to families and children dealing with bereavement, including counselling services and resources designed to meet their unique needs.
Winston's Wish
Specialises in childhood bereavement, providing practical support, counseling, and guidance for children, young people, and families grieving the death of a parent or sibling.
Samaritans
Offers emotional support through a confidential helpline available 24/7, allowing individuals to talk openly about their feelings of grief and loss with trained volunteers.
The Compassionate Friends
Provides support to bereaved parents, siblings, and grandparents through counselling, support groups, and resources aimed at helping
families cope with the loss of a child or sibling.
Marie Curie
Offers comprehensive support to individuals and families affected by terminal illness, including bereavement support services such as counseling and practical advice.
Grief Encounter
Focuses on supporting children, young people, and families through grief with counseling services, support groups, and resources tailored to their needs.
Hope Again
The youth-focused website of Cruse Bereavement Care, offering online resources, forums, and support for young people navigating grief after the loss of a loved one.